Don't Worry About the When, Focus On the Why!

Summary

In this episode of the Giving a Purpose podcast, host Jacques LaGrange discusses the importance of patience and process in achieving personal goals. He emphasizes that success is not about instant results but rather about understanding one's purpose and staying focused on the journey. By celebrating small wins and surrounding oneself with supportive people, individuals can maintain motivation and clarity in their pursuits. LaGrange encourages listeners to revisit their 'why' regularly and to embrace the process of growth and development.

Takeaways

We often get caught up in the timeline of success.
Success is a marathon, not a sprint.
Falling in love with the process is essential for success.
A strong 'why' provides clarity during confusion.
Celebrating small wins builds confidence and momentum.
Progress is often invisible before it becomes undeniable.
Small, steady steps lead to significant achievements.
Surrounding yourself with supportive people is crucial.
Revisiting your 'why' helps maintain focus and motivation.
Living on purpose is key to fulfillment.

Transcript

Jacques LaGrange (00:01.634)
Have you ever thought to yourself, when is it actually going to happen for me? Let's talk about it next on the Give It A Purpose podcast.

Jacques LaGrange (00:35.316)
Welcome to the Giving a Purpose podcast where we bridge the highs, the lows, the lessons learned through life's journey and filling in the gap. You already know what it is. New week, new fresh episode. So listen, I need you guys to do me a favor first. Hit that subscribe button. Share this with somebody. Let somebody know that you're getting good stuff here on the Giving a Purpose podcast. I'm your host, Mr. LA, as always. And I appreciate you guys so much for tuning in.

appreciate new followers, appreciate all the lights, but listen, we got goals. We want to do some things. All right. So you ever been in, in a mood where you're just like, when is it really going to happen for me? We, we have that all the time. I know, listen, I'm telling you from personal experience, I'm always saying, when is it going?

to happen for me, right? I'm like, I'm doing the work, I've been showing up, but it feels like nothing is changing. If that's for you, we're gonna talk about it today. Because the truth is, we get too caught up in the timeline or we get caught up in the win for our win. So we get caught up in the W-H-E-N.

for our W-I-N, if that makes sense. And so we have to understand that sometimes with the culture right now, we are in a place where we want instant results. We want everything microwavable. All right, we want everything done two or three minutes. You know how they do things on certain platforms. We got to get somebody's attention in like the first six to seven seconds.

or we want these automatic results to take place. And let me tell you, it don't work like that all the time. And we have to stay focused on the why and not the win. We have to know that success is a marathon, not a sprint.

Jacques LaGrange (02:57.066)
It is a marathon, not a sprint. And the win may be uncertain, but it anchors why you're doing it. That's why it's strong to have a great why. Because when you have a great why, it helps you not think about when it's going to happen. And you can then now focus on the process. You have to fall in love with the process. Because when you fall in love with the process,

you'll actually be prepared for the win. So another thing that we have to do is we have to be patient. You guys know I love to talk about being patient and being consistent. Those are your power tools. So when you stay focused on being patient and you're being consistent and you focus on that, that creates your momentum.

you realize that certain distractions deter you from, or it may put a pause on your destiny or where you're trying to go on the W-I-N. So you don't necessarily always have to see the finish line, all right? And know that you're on the right track. So one of the things that I always fall into

into something about is I like to

have everything lined up before I get started. I'm that type of person sometimes. And sometimes I don't get to where I need to go in my goals because I'm already, like I have to have everything lined up. That's my first step. And then I get caught up. All right, once I start doing it, when is this gonna click? Like this whole thing is a process. Me doing this podcast, right?

Jacques LaGrange (05:01.868)
I've been doing it for almost, shoot, almost five years now. Took a little hiatus for a little bit, but sometimes you're thinking like, all right, well, when am I gonna get all of this fame? I don't even wanna get hooked up on fame and fortune, because I'm really trying to help people. And I really wanna make sure that the people that are listening are...

getting the jewels and getting poured back into. But there is a business side to it. There is a, you know, excitement that you want about it. No, yeah, sometimes I want the likes. Yeah, sometimes I want the shares. Yes, I want the followers. But I just wanna make sure I'm reaching more of the people, because I know what I am doing is a part of my purpose.

And when I'm sharing stuff and I'm doing stuff that's a part of my purpose, I know where I get my information from my life experience and doing things like that. I know people are going through the same thing and they may need what I am saying. So that's where more of my frustration, but I'm trying to make a point. And sometimes it's tough. You're like, when is it going to happen?

You know what saying? You see all these videos, all it takes is one. It's like, well, where's my one? But I also know that I gotta fall in love with the process. And the process tells me I can't focus on the W-H-E-N. I'm just focusing on winning, because I'm a winner. That's the confidence and that's the approach and the mindset that I take that

I am a winner. I have to do the process and do the things that require me to win. Now when I actually win...

Jacques LaGrange (07:09.954)
W-I-N, I don't know. I can't focus on that because my why has to be deeper and stronger, which will create my endurance. A strong why gives you clarity during confusion. Because there is a lot of confusion when you're trying to get to your goal. And sometimes you don't know, you lose focus of your why. You started with a why and sometimes you wanna change your why.

And sometimes you get discouraged and things start to get confusing. But we know God is not a God of confusion. So you have to stay the course. All right. So some of the things we got to do in between in that process, right? You have to revisit regularly.

why you're doing this. All right? Instead of focusing on the when, W-H-E-N, you have to sometimes go back and revisit why are we doing this? That's why we talk about journaling. That's why we talk about affirmations. That's why we have vision boards and different things like that. You have to go back and revisit why are we doing this?

All right. One thing that I definitely do that I love that helps me with my confidence and my progress. Listen, I celebrate small wins. W-I-N. I celebrate small wins. And so I just stack my wins. So when I come out and say, I'm a winner, right, and not focusing on the win,

is because I celebrate the small wins and I just stack my wins. So when I stack the small wins, I realize that I am making progress and that builds my confidence to do more and to stay the course and to stay focused. And that helps me then build the mindset that I'm actually closer than I think. And sometimes when I get to that point,

Jacques LaGrange (09:26.328)
where I wanna break down, where I wanna quit, I gotta remind myself I'm actually closer than I think.

Progress is invisible before it becomes undeniable. I'm gonna say that again. Progress is invisible before it becomes undeniable. All right? You gotta stay in motion. Every small step matters. Every small step matters. Don't let anybody deter you thinking that these small wins don't count. Thinking these small steps don't count. Small steady steps.

will still get you the distance that you want. Because sometimes if you can't keep the pace, if you're looking around, comparing yourself to what other people were doing, you'll actually tire yourself out. Take small steps. Small steps will get you to those big distances, right? So you just have to remember that we have to stay on course.

and stay the route and not focus on the WHEN So let's revisit on the jewels that we dropped today, right? That's gonna get us to our purpose. We have to revisit our why daily, all right? Go back to the beginning. Why are we doing this? What gave me, because you know when we start something out, we really have this burst of energy. We have this refreshness. Sometimes you gotta go back and say, why am I doing this?

that's why. Boom. Now I'm focused. Celebrate the small little wins, right? Little wins, little steps. Get us to the W-I-N win, right? You know this is my favorite thing. Create the routines, right? Not just the goals. Create positive routines. Get yourself in alignment.

Jacques LaGrange (11:35.116)
I'm telling you that these processes, these routines are going to make sure that you build your confidence. Because once you do it, it's like, I've done it before. I've done this before. So then now you're in a mindset of winning.

Something that we talk about all the time. All right, that is essential to your progress. Surround yourself with people who remind you who you are.

Surround yourself with good people. There's a couple of ways. You surround yourself with people that are doing the same things, that may be smarter than you, that may have information about what you want to do so that you can take the information and then you can make a better decision. So surround yourself with a group of people, a circle, that's gonna get you to the win that you need to do. Man.

That's awesome in every single way and I love it. So make sure you guys stay focused. Make sure you guys stay encouraged. Small, small, small wins will get you to your big win. Stop worrying about the win, focus on the why. So you guys do the most important thing I need you guys to do all the time.

Listen, make sure that you live on purpose and make sure you live in purpose. I will see you guys next week. Peace.